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Bearing a Grudge

Ephesians 4:26,27

"In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."

Leviticus 19:18

"Forget about the wrong things people do to you. You must not try to get even. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. I am the Lord."


What is it that causes one to "hold a gruge"? Bottom line: They don't forgive. Forgive what? The wrong done them....and that can be a word spoken harshly, it can be a word which is a lie, it can be when you have been "sinned against" in any aspect.

The above scriptures do give us a guide line. ButI like, further, the words in John 20:23. Jesus said, "If you forgive someone's sins, they're gone for good. If you don't forgive sins, what are you going to do with them?" I like that!! "What are you going to do with them?"

I heard just yesterday (at the time of this writing) of one who said it takes me 3 days to forgive or get over it. Another said (believe it or not) I really have trouble holding a grudge. "I don't like it, but there is nothing I can do about it. I can't seem to let go." Well, my take is - - there IS something they can do. It falls in line with what God has done thorugh his son, Jesus. That being - FORGIVING.

Bottom line. Holding a gruge IS NOT HEALTHY!! The gall of bitterness (which is a great tool of Satan) grows and grows. It is much like an infection. The cause has to come out and that is done - again - through the surgery of that great word FORGIVENESS.

If this is a problem with you or a loved one, please ask the ministry of the Holy Spirit to aid you toward wholeness.


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